No Love Loss. Enjoy Valentine’s Day After a Divorce
I am what some may call a hopeless romantic (blushing XOXO). I love, LOVE! The feelings of loving someone romantically is invigorating.
However, Valentine’s Day does not only represent the romantics. It is also a time to show appreciation to anyone who is special in your life. I believe that we, human beings, were made to love. You can express that love toward your children, parent, friend, sibling or even peer. The feeling is still euphoric and pays great dividends.
I like to think of those who stood by my side through some really ugly situations and not take for granted their kindness or support regardless of how we became acquainted.
Being divorced is not a death sentence to love in your life. I have decided to focus on who does love me instead of who does not; thoes who accepts me vs. those who push me out.
As girls in particular get older, acceptance becomes so, so important. I find that my daughter can get sucked into the drama of the 2 people who are mean and not accepting vs. the 20 girls calling to have a play date and thinks she is the boom.com...... and a bag of chips.
This can be the case not only with children but also adults. The exes become the focus and not the 10 text messages from friends calling to spend time with you.
Most of all, there is YOU! Yeap, show yourself some love. The way you show yourself love is very visible. When you love yourself, it attracts the right people into your life which helps you become an even better person. Your confidence wards off the dream suckers and haters. I have a habit of taking myself to the movies and doing a variety of things for me to enjoy alone.
This Valentine’s Day, focus on those who value you. Take the initiative to plan something special with them to say “I LOVE YOU”. Don’t sit by wishing the person you prefer to love you show up with special treats. Get your focus off of your exes. Instead see the big hearts standing right around you eager to love you.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY (XOXOX)